Philosophy

Beyond Pick Up

The “pick up artist” (PUA) movement was created to remedy male sexual frustration in the face of post-feminism cultural chaos. We simply have no rules for dating, mating and courtship anymore as a society. With no rules, we men are forced to find our way largely on our own because the advice coming down from previous generations is either obsolete or misdirected. The keys to learning how to become more successful with women lie in accepting ourselves as we are and not being afraid to ask for what we want.

The PUA industry has emerged as the dominant source for dating advice for men over the last several years. In its early days it began as a set of techniques, strategies and routines designed to get hot women into bed. Guys were employing typically male strategies to connect with women using logic, procedure and analysis. The common issues men wanted to overcome included approach anxiety and lack of confidence. Successful gurus emerged and began to teach other guys how to copy their success.

In my experience, the overwhelming majority of guys do not succeed by following PUA advice alone. The reason is simple: Women can sense when a guy is desperate, needy or being manipulative regardless of what he’s saying or doing. There is no substitute for real confidence and emotional connection. Emotionally healthy women require both to feel genuine attraction and desire for a man. If you’re dropping routines and not owning them, you’re bound to fail in frustration because you won’t be able to hide your incongruence and lack of confidence. And even if you succeed at racking up the numbers, will that ultimately satisfy you? At some point you’ll want a relationship in your life.

And that is precisely the point where my philosophy breaks from the greater PUA community…

My Core Philosophy

Neediness repels women. Confidence attracts them. And no one man can be all things to all women.

Those are the simple realities we men face when it comes to women. You need to take a stand for who you are and what you want knowing full well that many women won’t like you for it. But the ones that end up liking you will LOVE you. It’s far better to have a polarizing personality than to try to please all the attractive women you meet.

The only way to transform neediness into confidence is to consistently step out of your comfort zone and live to tell the story. You need to get good at being uncomfortable and processing negative emotions. High quality and consistent feedback are also critical to the process. Only my style of coaching can provide that level of priceless insight. Not only will I tell you how you come across to me, you’ll also hear the insightful opinions of my attractive female coaching assistants. These women are specifically trained to give you feedback you can immediately use to literally clean up your vibe and become your most attractive self out in the real world.

My job is to teach you to be so comfortable in your own skin that you will be able accept any outcome with any particular woman. Women will feel you and be drawn to you. And you’ll finally believe to your core that if one woman doesn’t work out, there’s always a better one out there that you’ll have no trouble finding. Nothing is better than having that abundance mentality.

There is no better way to face your fears and have breakthroughs than to do it in advance of the challenges of real life!